Look at the bigger picture

The topic today has nothing to do with the photo which I got it from the web. In fact it was not meant to be here, but else this blog would be too wordy. I believe this was taken at the high ground in Kaikoura - South Island New Zealand. Kaikoura is where one could do whale-watch - for the record i went there twice, but would not mind the third time. I still remember standing at the beach early morning sipping my coffee and awed by the majestic sunrise with the snow cap mountains in the background. One would be humbled.

At times, there were frustrations arising from happenings around you. You felt there were a lot of wrongdoings by others to their benefit but at the expense of yourself. No, I am not referring to those from works, but rather the people around you (i qualified - not my missus!). You get pisseed, you felt like giving them a piece of your mind. But of course, being aware of the sequent consequences, the right sense prevails.

You wonder if those unpleasant matters are important, especially when assets are involved. Others get to enjoy some stuff which you would deem as luxurious but yet they are NOT well-off than you, short of saying a mere empty shell. How did they manage to own a car, while you cun? Many questions, but no answers. But the more you think, the more your blood would boil.

Of late, two colleagues related to me of the unfortunate incidents happening to their friends/relatives.

One told me of his brother whose wife lost a battle to breast cancer. His brother is two or three years older than me. They have a daughter who is younger than mine. During the pregnancy, it was found that the mother had cancer. They were in a dilema, whether to proceed with the surgery but it may jeopardise the pregnancy. Eventually, they took the risk, and the operation was a success. Unfortunately, the cancer relapsed with more aggression years later. Lots of treatments, including new drugs, but with no success. Eventually, the ocologist even advised the husband to stop all treatments as his wife was not responding positively. Soon after CNY, his wife passed away, and the child was too young to recognise what happened. During the funeral, she told others that her mother is sleeping...

The second story was also the demise of a young mother. Two children, the yonger not even one. She had been diagnosed to have a tumour in the brain. Surgery was required but it had somehow been scheduled to a much later date. Unfortunately, the tumour had grown to become life-threatening and the mother passed away, almost weeks after CNY.

As a parent, you felt the pain as young children had lost their mothers. The two fathers would have to double their responsibilities, because the ones whom they most relied on were now gone.

These really serve as a good wakening call - Life is short, value what you have and dun get upset with trivia stuff. At times, your loved ones may not have been perfect, e.g. some of the household chores could have been done better, but think of the good things. If you want to bring a message to correct someone, choose your words, mellow down your tone; or if you can live with it, then forget about it altogether. Avoid unnecessarily arguements, i am sure life would be much easier.

As for those individuals who pissed me a lot, i guess i just have to bear with it - as what i had advocated. Maintain a healthy distance, and life would be easier and emotionally wealthier.